One thing that I hate emotion is the fact that with emotion comes morals, and morals are subjective. Whether you believe something or not doesn’t always matter, because it cannot control those that believe something else.
Take for example the moral of ‘don’t cheat’: sure, you can follow this but will your partner? ‘Cheating’ in itself doesn’t necessarily outline any boundaries nor any moral code per se.
I think most people would agree that if you sleep with someone while in an agreed-upon monogamous relationship other than your partner, this is cheating. That’s a simple truth, I believe. But why is it wrong? Pushing beyond the acceptable boundaries of trust, respect, commitment and pulling on emotional heartstrings, cheating is just something most people cannot deal with.
What about the flipside, not the person being cheated on nor the person doing the cheating, what about the person who they are doing the cheating with? Are they doing something morally wrong?
Taking the scenario from the beginning, imagine A meets B, but B is already with C. A and B hit it off and hook up. I think it is safe to assume that amidst all of this, we can agree that B has done the wrong thing for cheating on C. But at this point, is it ok to judge A?
If B never mentioned that they were in a relationship, how can A be held accountable for the actions? I think the only ‘morals’ that they can be questioned on is sleeping around with other people, which, for some, is not important.
Taking it a step further, what if B had mentioned that they were in a relationship but was still wanting to go ahead with it, does this then mean that A has broken moral code? Being ‘the other woman’ can be a big thing for any guy or girl, but is it necessarily wrong?
Going from the perspective that both A and B were fully aware of the situation, there is one main point that I can think of to tease out. This is the idea of who did what. Did the person in the relationship initiate the hook up, or did the single person? I think that if A were to try and persuade B then this would be the first flag to say that A is doing something morally wrong. If it was fully initialised by B, however, A has little to worry about.
A quick google shows me that there are many people who believe that ‘the other woman’ can live with a clean conscious, however thinking about it my mind races with other questions. If this happened to me, I do think that I would have some emotional anger for the other woman, but I do think that I would vent most of it on my partner/ex-partner to the point until logic took over.
Is the other woman doing something morally wrong?
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